Negativity comes easily to many. It is quick, simple and painless to deliver. A put down, a gesture, an ill-considered text or tweet; they fuel the ego but hurt the recipient. Negativity about ourselves comes equally easily. When we are negative about ourselves we don’t fuel egos but we can drag ourselves down.
Teachers are sadly very good at being negative about themselves and it is easy to see why. Teaching can be a lonely task at times. If you have had a tough day and it comes to 3.30 on a cold, damp and darkening winter afternoon, the children have gone and you might be alone with only a pile of books and your own melancholy to keep you company. We tend to be very self -critical as a profession and if we don’t self-manage workload or deadlines we can add to this.
Here at Healthy Toolkit HQ we like to accentuate the positive and in our latest themed month we urge everyone out there to be aware of what you and what others do well. Welcome to #MagnifyMarchHT.
As we have outlined in previous posts, positive thoughts and comments can impact the mood of a whole staff in a way that can genuinely make someone feel good about themselves. However this does need to be authentic and reflect the integrity of the person delivering it. We all recognise the stilted communal praise that might come at the end of a term largely punctuated with criticism and may question the authenticity of it. Consider the difference that an aside, a note, card or even a simple gift can make. It becomes personal, real and memorable.
This is where magnification comes into play. School leaders need to know that by identifying success and raising its profile we can boost the confidence and self image of the recipient. Authenticity is important here. Finding one nugget in a poor lesson shouldn’t divert from the priority of challenging the quality of teaching, but it may be a way into developing that teacher’s skillset. In a wider context, ‘thank you‘ and ‘well done‘ cost nothing, are polite, demonstrate good human values and they become habit forming. Creating and maintaining this positive culture in the school will show everyone is equally valued and encourage them to be positive about their own successes.
Most importantly, we should also magnify our own successes, as Honest Abe tells us. Find a positive in day and praise yourself for it. Even better find five or ten different things that went well, note them and refer back to them at the end of the week, month or year. Tweet it or blog it but not to the point of inflating your ego; we can all teach well, but we all do it in our way. Magnify your core rather than your ego because your core spirit and values, as well as our physical core, upholds you as an individual.
So this month we would love to see you sharing your successes: great displays; individual examples of progress; wonderful shared experiences like performances or school trips; the child you’ve helped all year suddenly showing independence. Share what you do outside too: climbing; baking; fitness. If it’s important to you, make it count and be proud of it.
If we are authentic in our praise of others then we can be genuine in reflecting upon our own successes. In a successful team, a diverse range of talents makes the collective whole run smoothly. You might be the creative one, the philosophical one, the practical one or the organised one. Recognise yourself for what you do well as well as acknowledge the role of others.
Be you. Be brave. Be fabulous. Be kind. Be grounded. Be real. Be authentic. Be ordinary. Be extraordinary.
We find our inspiration from normal people who go out of our their way to help other people and make a positive difference and who promote positive thinking. If you are an active user of social media, why not #FF your positive influences this month?
Negativity is lazy, instant and gratifying only to the perpetrator. It’s like a sugar rush leading to craving for more. Positive thinking is the complex carbohydrate of wellbeing; slowburning and ultimately more satisfying. Negativity is a drain on wellbeing but positivity promotes it.
‘The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.‘- Winston Churchill
So in #MagnifyMarchHT why not dare to be optimistic?